{Joyous Holidays} You Can Have It All


There is something about the holiday season that makes me think about what I do and don’t have in my life. Do you have these thoughts, too? Perhaps it is the commercials, your neighbor’s over-the-top holiday light display, or any of those other nagging indicators that we just don’t have everything. I want to focus my attention on joy, but I get distracted by all the shiny objects.  🙄

I came across an infographic called A Woman’s Paradox (here’s the link). This infographic became a shiny object of a different variety for me.

I was hypnotically drawn to the pictures of women divided into pieces by colors. The creators of this infographic concluded, through quite a bit of research, that women today have few choices than they did before. In fact, their only choices were climbing the corporate ladder or staying at home. Furthermore, the majority of women who were climbing the corporate ladder wanted to be home with their children, and the majority of women who were at home with their children wanted to climb the corporate ladder. To top it all off, women (and men) were happier in the 1970’s than they are now. It is as if all the change over the last 40 years has been for not. Personally, I think the creators’ limitation of choices that women have was not realistic at all.

Hello! You are posting your infographic on the internet where many women stay at home with their children and climb their own corporate ladder!

Sorry, I digressed a bit there.

The infographic ended with a quote from Madeleine Albright (former secretary of state):

I do think women can have it all, just not at the same time.

That quote upset me even further. Who was she to say I could not have it all when I wanted to have it all?

Then I realized, I did not even know what it was.
What exactly is the it in have it all?
Did I even want it?

Perhaps the overall decrease in happiness for women and men has to do striving for this it.

I believe we are sold by the media, our culture, various religions, and other influencers what it is. Many times, the concept of it posited by each source may be in conflict. Viewing this it situation from that vantage point, anyone can see why people are less happy than before. So much external noise from the sources makes internal decision making difficult.

How can anyone possibly have it all if it means so many different things?
The madness needs to stop if we want to have joy in our lives.

I want to challenge you to take a step back from the fray, from the conflicting definitions of it.

Now, be brave momma!
Define it for yourself.

It will be tempting to fall back on definitions offered by so many others, but it is important to figure out your definition of it.


Comment below with your definition of it. Share this post with your family and friends so they can share their definitions, too. My guess is we will read comments with a wide variety of it definitions. And I hope, revelations of how each of us can have it all!

Have a peaceful, joyous, love-filled day!



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