How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others and Define Your Own Success as a Woman Business Owner

I want to talk to you about the concept of having it all. I remember reading an article a few years ago that quoted Madeleine Albright saying that women couldn't have it all. But I don't believe that's true. No one has actually defined what "having it all" really means. We all have ideas about what it could be, but these ideas are often shaped by external influences like family, society, school, media, and so on, rather than our own personal desires.

Soul Searching

As a society, we're constantly comparing ourselves to others, and I found that I did this a lot in my own life and business. When I started to grow my business, I would compare myself to others who were also starting out, wondering why they were doing better than me. I also compared myself to others in my personal life, wishing I had a better car, a better house, better-behaved kids, or better fashion sense. But then I realized that I was constantly chasing the next thing without ever really defining what it was that I wanted.

It took some soul searching to figure out what I wanted, without being influenced by others. I had to dig deep and overcome limiting beliefs that others might put up, as well as my own limiting beliefs about what was possible. Once I defined what "having it all" meant for me, I was able to focus on achieving my own personal goals, rather than constantly chasing the idea of having it all and feeling unsatisfied.

For me, having it all means finding balance in 13 areas of my life, including family, career, health, finances, personal growth, and more. I don't necessarily focus on each of these areas equally, but rather on the ones that will move the needle the fastest. When I fine-tune one area of my life, the others start to rise as well, and my life starts to look more like the vision I have in my head.

Define “It”

Some people say "fake it till you make it," but I don't think that's the right approach for everyone. Instead, I suggest looking at the areas of your life that are closest to your ideal vision, and figuring out how to improve those areas first. This will help you move the needle in the right direction and get closer to achieving your goals.

Remember, defining what "having it all" means for you is a personal journey that may change over time. But in order to maintain your sanity and feel satisfied with your life, it's important to define it for yourself and focus on achieving your own personal goals. So don't let anyone tell you that you can't have it all, because with the right mindset and approach, anything is possible.

Tell me in the comments below what having “it” all means to you!