I feel in many respects, I'm a lot like you. I am ambitious AF and can't imagine being any other way. I always strive to be at the top, not to compete with others, but just to be the best I can be while being of massive service to those around me. And several times, this ambition almost cost me my family.
I remember the day my daughter was holding her newborn baby brother. She looked at me and made me promise to be there for him because I wasn't for her. She reminded me of how I use to pick her up from school, take her back to work with me, and she would sit quietly on the couch in my office while I worked into the night. I thought I was getting in work and family time. I was wrong.
Then and even after that conversation all I did was fall into overwhelm trying to juggle everything so I could have a perfect life. I'm ashamed to say everything crashed more than once before I started learning from my mistakes. And by crash, I mean: failing health - failing marriage - failing emotional and spiritual state. I was a HOT mess.
The Overwhelm Cure is how I got my life back - family and career.